Self-Care for Moms
Do you feel overwhelmed by your to do list, or are you in desperate need of time to yourself?
Whether we like to admit it or not, most of us Moms are hustling waaay too hard, both at work ( or in our businesses) and at home. We’ve got a house to clean and a family to feed, so how can we possibly fit in time for ourselves, right?
I know how it feels to be completely exhausted and emotionally depleted. I have vivid memories of how tired and ‘off’ I felt when our daughter was a toddler. I was nursing her 24/7 and my husband was working long hours, which meant I had little to no time to myself, whether to have time for creative hobbies or to just take a break.
Now that our daughter is older and my husband and I both work from home, it’s easier for me to focus on my self-care. However, even before we got to this point in our lives/businesses, I still managed to prioritize spending even a 20 minutes for myself.
In today’s post, I want to give you some ideas for creating self-care routines that work for you, whether you are a stay at home Mom, working Mom, or work from home Mom.
How Much Time Do You Have?
To start building regular self-care routines, you need to assess how much time you have to devote to yourself, and to your wellbeing. Back when our daughter was a toddler and Billy was frequently at work, I had little time. However, I still had some time each day to get in me-time…I just had to force myself to take that time off.
For starters, I realized that I needed to really prioritize that 20-40 minutes. My husband was totally on board, and understood that it was integral I got that time for self-care and creative time eachday. Plus, he wanted some time to bond alone with Kaya, so we decided that when he got home from work, I would head to a local coffee shop to study for a short creative course I was taking while he took Kaya to get a snack. We would then meet up for dinner, or we would cook at home.
Sometimes I would just go for a walk in our neighborhood, and other days ( on the weekend or holidays) I’d meet up with friends for lunch or dinner. Yes, I felt guilty for taking that off-time, as many Mothers do. But it was so integral for me, especially because I was just recovering from post partum depression.
If you’re a single parent or your partner is frequently gone on business trips, mission work, volunteering, or is an entrepreneur, you may have very little time each day ( or each week) to devote to yourself. But I’m guessing that you could still fit in time to listen to an audiobook or journal when your kids are napping or when you’re commuting back home from work. And if you have older kids, could then watch your little ones while you head to a local cafe or meditate in your room for a while?
If you’ve just had a baby and are breastfeeding 24/7, you may only have a few minutes to take time for yourself. Nap times for your baby may be a great time for you to nap! Or take a shower/bath. Or make yourself something nourishing to eat!
Write down approximately how much time you have each day for your creative hobbies or wellness activities.
If you still feel like there is no way you can do this daily, ask yourself: how much more productive will you be if you take this time for yourself? Will you feel refreshed afterwards, and therefore be a more relaxed/patient parent?
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Finding What Self-Care Routines Work For You
Because we’re all unique and have different interests and desires, it’s important to create a self-care routine that’s right for you, and that’s also doable for you to fit into your schedule.
For me, I feel refueled when I pursue my creative and intellectual hobbies, whether I read a thought-provoking book or have a deep conversation with someone about art, philosophy, and travel.
When my daughter was a baby, I was frequently at home, so just taking time to go out ( even for a short walk) was so incredible. I felt revived and more content. And when I developed post partum depression, I started learning just how important taking the right herbs for my body and mind were to improving my condition; after seeing a traditional Chinese medicine doctor and getting the right herbs to treat the imbalance I was dealing with, I became healthier and happier, and realized that taking herbal medicine was a must-have part of my daily self-care routine. And something that took no time at all.
Many Moms feel like they’re missing a connection to like-minded women who deeply care about them and want to help them on their mothering journey. If you feel the same way, try prioritizing meeting up or talking with fellow holistic Moms. Apps like Hey! Vina can help you connect with people that share your interests in your local community.
In order to find out what self-care routine works for you, sit and think about what’s important to you, and what you’re missing right now in your life.
Ideas For Self-Care Routines
If you’re stuck on what you could fit in time for each day to help you feel like the best version of yourself, here are some ideas:
+ 15 minute exercise routine ( like this one)
+ Take a yoga classes a few times a week ( or adopt a home-based yoga routine using an app like Gaia)
+ Do a daily devotional
+ Keep a daily journal
+ Meet up with friends once or twice a week and speak with them daily on the phone/messenger
+ Take a long bath
+ Meditate for 20 minutes
+ Devote a certain time each to prayer and reflection
+ Take an evening walk
+ Go out for coffee
+ Listen to an audiobook while commuting back from work
+ Listen to your favorite podcast when your kids are napping
+ Take naps when your baby naps!