Over the past few years, our family has learned first hand how wonderful ( and sometimes challenging) it can be to embrace a slower, simpler lifestyle.
At times, we scaled back out of necessity, and now, we choose to live simply. And yet, we don’t consider ourselves minimalists.
In fact, we enjoy collecting hard-to-find things, such as vintage toys and even TV shows from the 80s that Billy and I both enjoyed when we were kids. And everyone in our house is a gamer!
Nor do we want to have a house that’s got that uber sterile, everything-is-perfect type of vibe.
I prefer a house that looks likes its lived in, and so does Kaya and Billy.
None of us has a capsule wardrobe, nor do we want one. And owning a set amount of possessions is of no interest to us.
Having a slower pace of life and prioritizing time spent with family is what we focus on.
To some, this does make us minimalists. And to others, it doesn’t.
You see, since the minimalist blogger scene has exploded, there have been subtle hints at what it minimalism should look like. While bloggers may say that there is no set of rules for the minimalist-seeker needs to follow, their is a sort of perception about what is and what is not a minimalist home.
Some say it’s owning 100 items. To others, it’s living in a tiny home or RV.
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As I’ve stressed in our blog posts, labels are limiting, and I don’t like using them. If you want to downsize and find happiness in living simply, follow your instincts and do that. If you want to have only 100 items in your home, you can do that too!
But don’t feel that you have to adopt a certain lifestyle just because your favorite blogger tells you ( directly or indirectly) that it’s the best way to go.
Instead, follow your intuition and your budget. Converse with your family members about what brings them joy, and make a list of the things that your family values above all else. Then, seek to prioritize that list.
Having a slow-home or a simple lifestyle looks different in each household that chooses to embrace that lifestyle, and the same goes for minimalism.
Do/Own What Sparks Joy
One of the many reasons we love the Konmari method is because Marie Kondo places an emphasis on keeping in our lives that which sparks joy. Not owning a certain number of items or comparing your home to Marie’s. No.
She places an emphasis on keeping the things that bring you joy.
This is SO KEY because Marie is basically saying that we are all unique, and our homes and lives will reflect that!! In Japan-the land of otaku culture- many people collect figurines and other kawaii items. Perhaps those that collect items ( like we do) don’t actually mind having more belongings, nor having a ton of white space in their home.
And what about fellow bibliophiles who feel happy when surrounded by books? Do you need to suddenly rid your house of them because you haven’t gotten around to reading them all, or because your fav minimalist blogger tells you to?
Marie Kondo’s method of owning and keeping only that which sparks joy is a fantastic way of figuring out the route to having a home that sparks joy for you, and can help you kick comparisonitus out the door.
I consider her method a sort of practical minimalism that’s flexible and that varies individual to individual, which is why the Konmari method has been so life-changing for us.